Marriage Is Hard But It’s Always Worth The Work

Just about two weeks ago, Mr. Divine walked out on his family. His reasons were that he wasn’t happy and he didn’t want to try anymore. Not very strong reasons, but he felt validated in leaving none the less. Nothing I said, did or apologized for helped. He was determined to walk out and abandon his wife and child no matter what. He did not look back, immediately putting in an address change request and telling me he wanted all his stuff.

The last few weeks have been a total nightmare as one could expect. Little Divine is a huge mess, and she misses her dad. Beyond that, she is utterly disappointed in him for what he did. She hurting and acts out every day. She has a hard time getting anything done and prefers to get lost in her books. I had to sign her up for counseling because having the only father you’ve ever known walk out on you is devastating. Having it happen for no good reason is even worse. I don’t want her to have abandonment issues because of what he did. She’s had a really good, trauma free life so far. I don’t want that ruined and her permanently scarred. Even with counseling, the wounds he inflicted will always be in her heart.

Marriage is hard. Mr. Divine and I have been together almost 3 years. That is such a small amount of time in the grand scheme of things. We had many, MANY more years to come together as a family. Mr. Divine has had a hard life and has been abandoned by almost everyone in his life. He’s spent his whole life being unwanted and unloved. That does a lot of damage to a person. It creates a lot of baggage and issues that if not addressed, can destroy your life. I’ve got my own baggage from my personal history including a lot of trauma I’ve done my best to heal from. The difference between Mr. Divine and I is that I have actively looked to heal myself and get better.

Our society tells me to suck everything up and deal with it. It doesn’t allow them to have emotions or hurt over wrongs that were done to them. They are expected to take the hits and brush them off like nothing. They aren’t allowed to be wounded or scarred. They are expected to be Teflon. This does no one good. We are raising men who have no idea how to deal with the crap going on with them. They cannot communicate, they cannot express emotions, they bottle everything up and don’t deal with their issues. This creates broken marriages and broken homes.

We do a HUGE disservice to human kind when we treat our boys and men like this. We are fostering broken people remaining broken, and putting that brokenness into everything they do and touch. It’s not healthy and it needs to stop. Boys and men need to be allowed to feel emotions and express themselves. They need to be shown that communicating in a healthy way is a good thing no matter what your gender. They need to be allowed to be soft and not always expected to just tough things out.

Mr. Divine lived in a world full of people who didn’t help him be the best man he could. I was the one exception to that. I saw who he was, brokenness and all, and I chose to love him as he was. Did that mean I didn’t want him to be the best person he could be? No! My job, as any spouse’s job is, is to love him and try to help him be the best man he can. My job is most importantly to love him no matter what. This goes against a lot of current opinion in society that women need to not take a man’s crap and they should walk away from men who don’t do what they want.

I’m old fashioned and I do not believe that is the right attitude to create healthy relationships and marriages. “The grass is greener….” attitude is harmful to both genders. Walking away and quitting over small things, like arguing, is harmful. When you choose to be with a person you commit to them and you commit to your relationship even during the hardest times. You don’t quit on a person for making a mistake or hurting you.

Which is why I love Mr. Divine and always will. I had a friend make it very clear that she thinks what he did is horrible and that she does not want me to give him another chance ever again. She was so adamant in her stance, that she started distancing herself from me over having normal emotions over our situation, and mostly I think it’s because she wanted me to hate him and never want him back.

I can’t do that. That’s not who I am. It’s not who I choose to be. I choose to love my husband. I choose to forgive him. I choose to stand by his side even when he walks away from me and cuts all ties.

That’s the woman I want to be.

My walk is not yours. You have to make your own decisions about what is best for you in your situation. For me, I’ve spent my life carrying the heaviest weights of life. I am a very strong woman and life seems to think that means I should get the hardest trials. I am very used to going through hell and making it out just fine eventually. That is a part of my purpose and journey in life. I’m able to bear the weight and keep standing.

As I said above, marriage is hard. Mr. Divine and I stopped communicating well at least a month before he left. Mr. Divine was going through a lot of serious life situations and I think it was a lot for him to handle. Neither one of us was wanting to upset the other, so we both kept saying we were fine. We hurt our relationship by doing that. We went to bed angry, and even slept in separate rooms at times. That was also extremely harmful to our relationship. We stopped REALLY talking to each other.

Eventually he got to a point where all of the things going on were overwhelming him and he just didn’t want to deal anymore. No, this is not the healthy way to handle life but it’s the way he chose to do it. I let him go simply because that’s what he wanted. I did what I could to try to talk him out of it but he was determined to be stubborn in his poor decision. That’s his choice, one he will have to live with for the rest of his life. One he will have haunt him for the rest of his life.

He is welcome home at any time. Things will not go back to what they were before, they can’t. We need marriage counseling. And there will need to be remedies for the damage and broken trust caused. But I will always have my door open to him whenever he wants to come home. I choose to be the woman who does that instead of the woman who throws him away like every single person he’s ever had in his life has done to him.

Everyone deserves to be loved. Even the people who are the hardest to love. Even the people who hurt you the most and break your heart. It’s a choice to love those people and it’s one I choose to make.

I let Mr. Divine go 100%. I sent the last messages I would to him, then I deleted all the messages as well as his contact info. I won’t contact him again. The ball is in his court and it will remain that way. I will be the woman he loves and keep our family and our home running on my own. I’ve taken care of myself on my own most of my life so it’s nothing new for me. Mr. Divine was the one time in life I got to really share my life and world with someone else. I’m sad he chose to end that.

Most importantly, I hope one day he realizes that he made a mistake and remembers all he had.

And I hope he chooses to come home.

We both had our friends fail our relationship. His buddies screwed him over by not telling him to go home and make it work. They did him no good by their actions. They failed as friends and they will be stuck with that knowledge for the rest of their lives, that they helped destroy a family for no reason. Those people are people I will never trust again. They made a choice and they are responsible for it. They will forever live with what they did and the lives they destroyed.

My own friends who have been hurtful to me over still loving him, they also have blame they hold. They tried to force me to do and see things as they wanted without any interest in how we feel. They then distanced themselves from us because we refused to hate him and give up on him. That’s not friendship. You choose to be there for friends, not demand they do things your way or you stop being there for them. I will never forget the friends who put us in that situation. When we needed them the most, they chose to fail us because we still chose to love the man who we shared every single day with.

I’m disappointed all around in the people who know and how much they let us all down. I’ve got a daughter who is broken and hurting, and all she wants is her dad back. I haven’t eaten much in weeks. One friend told me she could tell how much weight I’ve lost in just a week. I’m a mess. I miss my husband. I am angry and hurt and so very sad. My life has been shattered and my heart ripped to shreds.

And none of this had to happen. It was all over a few arguments during a time when a lot was going on in our lives. There was no need for it to go like this. It was all such a waste. What we had was a love story for the books. It was incredible how we fell in love right away. We were best friends, lovers, and soul mates. Our life was so amazing together. Yes, we had some really hard times, but the majority of them were really good. And as time went on, our foundation got stronger and we kept conquering any issues that got in our way.

It always got better. Mr. Divine lost sight of that along the way. I’m so very sad for him because what an awful feeling to lose hope.

I won’t quit hoping. I have faith in our love and in us. I trust that we met and fell in love for a reason. And most importantly, I want him to know that I won’t ever quit on him. Years can go by and I still won’t quit on him. I will always see the best in him because I know him in a way no one else ever has. I will always love him because I will always feel he deserves to be loved. Everyone deserves at least one person who is completely committed to them and won’t ever quit on them. I will always be that for Mr. Divine.

Keep working on your marriage. Day in and day out do the work to make it amazing. Talk, really talk. Be open with each other and never go to bed mad. Wake up each morning giving the day a fresh start and wiping the slate clean. Value all the good there is in each other. Love each other unconditionally. Never quit on each other. Believe in the love you share and the foundation you’ve built. Trust one another. Put your family first. Don’t ever stop putting in the hard work because in 10  years it will all have been so worth it.

Stay strong through the hardships in life. Trust in the process and look for what you can learn through the experience. Remember, you are so very strong even when you don’t feel that way. Keep going forward even when all you can do it crawl. If you need support, I will be here for you the best I can. I know what it’s like to hurt and struggle. I also know that you can survive this and come out the other side. I have faith in you.

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Recipe – Mango Kale Madness Smoothie

Here is another smoothie recipe for you using 310 Nutrition shake powder! As with all my smoothie recipes, you can use any powder you would like in it including weight loss and protein powders.

I made this one for my breakfast shake today. It’s a very yummy blend! It’s another simple recipe because the last thing anyone needs is a complicated recipe to make the process harder! (^.^)

Feel free to share the pic above with the recipe on it, I like to add my recipes on my pictures to make it easier to share.

Recipe:

1/2 cup of cottage cheese
1 scoop of 310 Nutrition powder (I used Salted Caramel)
1 cup of frozen mango chunks
1/2 cup of frozen kale
2 cups of water

Blend and enjoy!

Seriously, it’s just that simple. I would recommend keeping cottage cheese or yogurt on hand for your smoothies. It adds healthy calories to them as well as thickening them up a bit. I use plain yogurt to avoid the extra sugars in the fruit filled ones. Look for organic if you can, if not it’s okay! Use what you can afford to get. (^.^)

The Salted Caramel is really good when you mix things in with it! I found it too sweet mixed with just almond milk or water. The addition of non sweet things like yogurt and the frozen veggies help mellow out the sweetness.

Please understand these products are made slightly sweeter because that is how the general population eats. We’ve become way too used to overly sweetened foods as a society! Due to that, companies who make healthy shake mixes have to make things a bit sweeter because if they didn’t, everyone would complain they are too bland….

With any shake mix, do what you can to tweak the recipes before you give up on it!

If you try this recipe, let me know what you think!

Don’t forget – if you’re looking for one of a kind handmade jewelry, goodies inspired by video games and awesome characters, busy bags for kids, artwork or prints… check out my Esty Shoppe: Dragon Fire Rose

Review – Poshbox Spring Box 2017

As though of you who follow my posts know, I like getting treats for myself occasionally. I spent so much time for many years sacrificing for others and putting my needs on the back burner. And it burnt me out and drained me! Since the end of 2016 I decided to make a lot of changes in my life. I am very happy with those decisions! One of which was to do a little bit more for ME.

We cannot give back and do a lot when we are sucked dry, drained, and burnt out. That’s just a fact. You have to take time to recharge, replenish, and rejuvenate YOU. That can come is a multitude of forms depending on each person, so find what works best for YOU and do it! Our families, friends, communities, groups, activities, organizations, commitments, etc. need us to be healthy and doing well. Why? Because when we are, we are giving our 100% because we are in a good place! When you let yourself get sucked down to the bone, you can’t give anywhere close to 100% because YOU are not anywhere near 100%.

You have to take care of you to be the best you possible. It’s not the same as being selfish or self-absorbed, it’s making sure you are doing what you need on all levels – emotional, physical, health wise, mental, spiritual. You need to put yourself as a priority and take care of you.

One of the ways I decided to pamper myself was with Poshbox. I recently started using 310 Nutrition and I kept hearing from ladies in the group how awesome their Spring Poshbox was so I decided to give it a try! Salted Caramel seems to be the favorite flavor of A LOT of people who use 310 and that was included in the Spring box, which was an extra motivator for me.

Let’s start off with the 310 products.

First off you get a bag of Salted Caramel flavor shake powder. It’s not the super big bag, which I didn’t know, but it does have at least 14 servings in it. As I said, this seems to be a preferred flavor in the 310 Facebook Community group.

Next is a 310 shaker cup. If you’ve been a 310 customer for a while, you probably have a few of these! If not, this is a handy thing for them to send with the shake mix. Nothing like getting a product to try without the necessary equipment!

They even threw in a sample of the 310 Detox tea as well! This is a great way to try it out and see if you like it.

Then there are the Kashmere products! I received a full size Kashmere Kollection Purifying Masque and a travel size Luxurious Toning Oil. I would have LOVED full size of both products, but I’m still very thankful for both! (^.^)

Also included were two Beachwood Essential Oils – apricot kernel oil and Bulgarian lavender! I was out of my lavender oil so this was perfect timing. And the Beachwood lavender smells amazing! I like lavender at night especially to help me relax for bed time. The apricot kernel oil is a carrier oil so it’s good to use with other essential oils that may irritate your skin if you put them on it directly. I sometimes have this issue with my tea tree oil.

Another item included is a small size Purely Wrinkle Free clothing spray that you just spray on clothes to remove wrinkles without ironing. This is handy for those who don’t have the time or desire to iron. The small size is also small enough to fit in a bag on the go in case you need to de-wrinkle while you’re out.

And the last item is Hydroderm Triple Effects Eye Serum. This is a very tiny bottle. I thought they skimped by giving me another travel size until I looked up the price. This 10ml bottle is $40 to $60 normally!

I’ll do a link up now where you can find all of these products at the lowest price in case you don’t want to buy the whole box or you missed out on this box. These links may take you to Amazon if I find Amazon has better prices than the company’s site.

Salted Caramel 310 Nutrition Shake Full Size

Salted Caramel 310 Nutrition Shake Smaller Size in Starter Kit (may not be available for long)

310 Nutrition Shaker Cup

310 Nutrition Detox Tea

Kashmere Kollections Purifying Masque

Kashmere Kollections Luxurious Toning Oil

Beachwood Apricot Kernel Essential Oil

Beachwood Bulgarian Lavender Essential Oil

Purely Wrinkle Free Clothing Spray Large Size

Purely Wrinkle Free Clothing Spray Small Size

Hydroderm Triple Effects Eye Serum

Did you sign up for Poshbox? What did you think of the products in it?


Don’t forget – if you’re looking for one of a kind handmade jewelry, goodies inspired by video games and awesome characters, busy bags for kids, artwork or prints… check out my Esty Shoppe: Dragon Fire Rose

Recipe – Tropical Green Smoothie

This morning I went outside and at 8am it was already HOT. This week we are having a heat wave so I thought a smoothie mix would be a really nice treat!

I used my 310 Nutrition Salted Caramel shake mix but this recipe can be used with any powder! You can use a nutritional powder, a protein powder, a weight loss powder, etc. Just add one serving of your powder to the mix and enjoy! (^.^)

Recipe:

-1 cup of water
-1 can of pineapple juice 6oz
-1 organic Greek peach yogurt 3.5oz
-1/2 cup frozen spinach
-1/2 cup frozen pineapple chunks
-1 cup of ice
-1 scoop of Salted Caramel 310 Nutrition shake powder

I blended this all up in my Ninja Master Prep blender and it was ready to serve! This made 2 and 1/2 tall glasses full of smoothie for me! I found the taste to be even better than expected, especially since I found the Salted Caramel to be a little too sweet for my taste by itself. This mix was REALLY good and not overly sweet! On top of that, I couldn’t taste the spinach at all.

I added up the calories and it has 378 according to MyFitnessPal. Not a bad morning breakfast! I had to force myself to drink all of it because I felt very full long before I got through the whole thing. I do try to drink it all just to ensure that I get all the calories my body needs for the morning.

What is your favorite way to enjoy your drink mixes?

Don’t forget – if you’re looking for one of a kind handmade jewelry, goodies inspired by video games and awesome characters, busy bags for kids, artwork or prints… check out my Esty Shoppe: Dragon Fire Rose  ❤

Recipe – Chocolate Peanut Butter Swirl Shake

My 310 Nutrition Sample Starter Pack arrived yesterday! I had already had my daily shake so I patiently waited for today to try a new flavor out. This morning I tried the chocolate and boy am I in love! I like it way better than the Vanilla Chai flavor. Keep in mind, taste is subjective. I am not trying to tell you one flavor is bad and one is good, I’m just sharing my preferences. (^.^)

I mixed up a simple recipe this morning to try my chocolate shake in. I added one 8oz cup of coffee to my blender, 1 cup of water, 1/2 cup of So Delicious Dairy Free Chocolate Peanut Butter Swirl ice cream, and one scoop of chocolate 310 Nutrition powder. I blended it all up and it came out super tasty! Like my last shake recipe, this one also filled up 2 tall drinking glasses for me. They were so good that I chugged them both right away!

This recipe can be used with any powder! You can use a nutritional powder, a protein powder, a weight loss powder, etc. Just add one serving of your powder to the mix and enjoy! (^.^) I would recommend a non-fruity powder with this recipe though, as the ice cream is a chocolate peanut butter flavor that might not mix well with some fruity flavors.

What is your favorite way to enjoy your drink mixes?

Don’t forget – if you’re looking for one of a kind handmade jewelry, goodies inspired by video games and awesome characters, busy bags for kids, artwork or prints… check out my Esty Shoppe: Dragon Fire Rose  ❤

Review – 310 Nutrition Vanilla Chai Shake Mix

I’ve been on the hunt for a good nutritional shake to help me lose a couple pounds as well as staying healthy with my injury. Since my fall, I can no longer do a lot of the things I used to do – including lifting weights. I also cannot do exercises that require me to put any body weight on my hand. Talk about limitations! Over the last year I have gained a few extra pounds due to being waaaay less active after my fall.

I’m thankful it’s only a few pounds now, but I know if I don’t nip it in the butt now, the pounds will slowly keep adding on over time. It’s better to get my weight in control now.

Drink mixes are often gross. Let’s be honest here! It’s really hard to find mixes that taste GOOD. And I still think that perfect product has yet to be invented. In the mean time, we want to find something pretty darn close! Especially if you are using them as meal replacements. No one wants to drink something gross EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Over the years I’ve tried a lot of different brands and types of powders. Green powders, weight lost powders, nutritional powders, protein powders. Each has a need it’s meant to fill and does different things for your body.

This go around we are looking at 310 Nutrition’s Vanilla Chai flavor powder. I stumbled across 310 purely by accident. A friend on Facebook is following a celeb chick and apparently she uses 310. Thanks to Facebook marketing, since my friend liked this woman’s post, it showed up in my feed. The timing was very right though!

I did my homework and compared 310 to other brands. I’m not a lazy consumer so I want to make sure what I’m getting it of value to me and to make sure it’s the best bang for my buck. I compared 310 to Shakeology, Thrive, and Herbalife. I found their products to have the lowest price, even at full price, and a really good ingredient list. To top that off, 310 products are:

– Sugar Free –
– Dairy Free –
– Soy Free –
– Egg Free –
– Nut Free –
– Gluten Free –

I have food intolerances with gluten and dairy topping the list. The fact that this company excluded ALL those possible allergens from it’s products is wonderful! The other brands I looked at couldn’t say the same.

I’m a cheap frugal person. I don’t want to spend a lot on most things. I like to save as much money as possible. Even at $68 a bag, which was the lowest out of all the companies, I still didn’t feel that was a low enough cost for me. Yet again, Facebook intervened (totally creepy by the way…) and started spamming my feed with 310 ads. Apparently if you view something online, Facebook starts stalking you with ads for it.

BUT – I did see a new ad for a sample starter kit for only $9 + shipping. I liked the look of all the stuff in the sample starter pack and felt $9 was worth it to try so many of their products. I didn’t, however, want to pay shipping for it. Frugal remember? I spent a few days mulling over it and looking at 310 stuff online. Turns out they had another deal going as well – 50% off their Vanilla Chai flavor plus a FREE shaker cup. $39 for it instead of $78 was something I could approve up. I decided to combine that deal with my sample starter pack deal and give it a try.

I also found a code for free shipping!

The Vanilla Chai arrived first! I mixed it with 1 cup of cashew milk (60 calories) and 1 cup of water. The Vanilla Chai has 90 calories per scoop, which is one serving.

Survey says – it’s good! It’s a little sweet for my taste, but that’s something I can tweak to work with. I think a plan flavor like regular vanilla or chocolate might be better for me too. Chai is good, but I have to be in the mood for it. Mr. Divine is going to try it as well and he LOVES chai so we’ll see what he thinks!

I felt full after drinking it as well, which was a nice thing. I’m really focusing on stopping my body before I get full with food because if you don’t allow yourself time to digest you will end up overeating. With so may buffet styles food places, it’s no wonder we can’t stop eating!

Conclusion – 310 Nutrition has really low prices on nutritional shakes compared to other similar companies. It seems they are always running some sort of sale as well which is nice! On top of that, if you sign up on their website they give you points for each order you place and you can trade those points in for $ off your next order! The Vanilla Chai is sweet but it seems to mix pretty well and left me feeling very full.

I’ll keep you updated on my 310 journey and I will review any new 310 products I receive for you! If you use THIS LINK to sign up you will get an extra 10% off your first order! Don’t feel you have to because of me, but if you want to give it a try, please use the extra discount to help out your wallet!

Don’t forget – if you’re looking for one of a kind handmade jewelry, goodies inspired by video games and awesome characters, busy bags for kids, artwork or prints… check out my Esty Shoppe: Dragon Fire Rose  ❤

Review – Greens Plus Superfood Vanilla Chai Powder


This morning I’m at my desk drinking a big ol’ mason jar full of green stuff! No, I didn’t blend up green eggs and ham…. 😀 Today’s morning drink is Greens Plus Smart & Fit Superfood Vanilla Chai!

My last post asked a lot of questions about a couple of nutritional shake companies. I have tried a lot of different types of shakes and Greens Plus is one of them. I have to say that I’m not really a fan of the taste of this particular one. :/

I think the mix of all the greens with a vanilla chai flavor is part of the issue. My mouth just isn’t crazy about the taste combo. I usually add a little matcha powder and honey to it to make it a little better. I am just not a fan of the flavor.

Also, I don’t feel it mixes well. The instructions say to add it to water or milk, yet I cannot get it to mix into those liquids at all. The powder tends to settle on the bottom no matter how much I shake it up. That leaves me with a very gritty drink as well.

The one thing I do like is all the goodies packed inside this stuff! It’s non-GMO, soy free, dairy free and gluten free. With my food intolerances I love that it doesn’t have those things in it! It’s jam packed full of nutrients and good for you stuff as well! Just take a look at their ingredient label to see all of what’s inside!

I really wish I liked this flavor and that it mixed up better because this is a great product otherwise! Cost wise you are looking at about a month of drinks if you do them once a day for about $40 a month depending on where you buy it from. Compared to other companies I’ve looked at, this is what I have found to be about the best deal you’ll find for a good nutritional type drink mix that will last a month.

Have you tried Greens Plus Superfood Vanilla Chai before? What did you think of the product?

Do 310 Nutrition or PlantFusion Shakes Work?

Photo courtesy of 310 Nutrition

Sound off ladies and gents – do 310 nutritional shakes do the job?

I’m asking because with my arm injury I am unable to work out as I used to. I’m very limited in what I can do and it really sucks to be honest. Now I’m having to modify everything I used to do so I’m still getting some sort of exercise and keeping my body healthy.

One thing I’ve been researching is the meal replacement shake trend. Now this is nothing new, Slim Fast kicked off this market maaaaaany years ago. However, nowadays there are TONS of options!! How is a girl to know which to choose?? That is where YOU come in! (^.^)

I’ve spent days looking at shake companies and I found 310 to have the best ingredients for me and a decent price. I’ve found a few brands on Amazon such as PlantFusion that look like another good bet. They sell for about $40 for a big jar that will last 20 servings. 310 has one with 38 servings but it’s normally $68. However – right now it’s only $40 itself which is why I am considering it.

Since my fall I can no longer work full time as a nanny. I’m so limited in what I do and my income flow is very small. I don’t get a lot of “free” play money to throw around on things anymore. That’s why this is such a BIG deal for me to get a good brand with a good company! I don’t have the $ to waste.

– Note – I understand some of you may want to rave to me about the other brands like Shakeology, Herbalife and Thrive. I get that you love your product and that’s wonderful! However, I’ve looked at their websites and their ingredient lists and they aren’t for me. I have sensitivities to some stuff that make my options different.

So…. who has tried 310 shakes?

Do they keep you feeling full for a while?

Do they help with weight loss/weight control in conjunction with exercise? And I’m talking even light exercise, not just heavy HiiT or cardio or lifting.

How do they taste?

If you’ve tried the PlantFusion brand at all, please let me know any of that info for them as well!

Thank you loves!

My Etsy Shoppe Can Now Ship Internationally!

I’m ecstatic right now! I found a way to make international shipping for my small jewelry business a reality and without extreme extra costs!

I had been keeping my sales to the United States only, but I recently sold a Southwestern style set to a gentleman who’s wife works in London. He said that they adore her Southwester jewelry where she works and ask to buy it off of her! He suggested I find a way to ship my pieces internationally because he felt it would open up the market more for me.

A little about this business – I have been running Dragon Fire Rose since 2013. We’ve done everything from selling Lego figures to selling kids gift sets to selling jewelry. I have the creative bug in my soul and I just *LOVE* coming up with new ideas of fun things to sell!

I started making very simple fashion earrings. Nothing fancy, just cute little charms on silver plated hooks. I sell them super cheap because I understand now everyone has a huge budget for accessories. Some of us scrimp and save just to supply our family’s basic needs. I get that 100%!

I kept going to the jewelry supply shops and would just have my breath taken away by the amazing pieces I saw there. I wanted to turn them into something so badly! I eventually took the plunge and followed my heart. In winter 2016 I began hand making jewelry sets. Again, I kept budget in mind and used a mix of plated pieces to keep prices for customers low. I understand that finances come first! I include a fee pair of my fashion earrings with each set. I believe that giving a little extra blesses someone and sends good karma forward!

I’ve been working on my designs and ways to keep prices low. I also take a few sets and make them higher end for the folks looking to spend more. I have a GORGEOUS amethyst set waiting to be made! I am planning to use sterling silver on the set and I found a lovely Italian purse in a silver shade that I want to pair with it for the ultimate set!

A little about me – I worked full time as a nanny until last September. I had a nasty fall in the end of summer last year that was “supposed” to heal within a couple of months. It hasn’t…. I deal with daily pain and so far I have no answers as to why. I’ve been seeing a specialist, a hand surgeon, who still can’t find the cause. So I live with pain every single day. I go to bed with pain and I wake up with pain. I don’t have full use of my right hand anymore. It’s just a part of my life now.

My jewelry business has been a way for me to try and find another way to provide an income for my family. Now I can only nanny part time. I currently work maybe once a week as I try to find more families in my town who need just once or twice a week care. I make jewelry and I paint because I truly love doing it and creating beauty fulfills me. It brings me joy to take a mix of pieces and turn them into a beautiful thing!

Now you can see why I am so excited that I can ship internationally! It means opening a wider door for my business. I plan to expand my art work this coming week with pages of old books with a print of some sort on the front. There is beauty to be found everywhere – you just have to find the person who sees the beauty in it!

If you love jewelry or artwork, if you know anyone who does, please share the link to my Etsy Shoppe. I know A LOT of people ask that kind of thing. I shared a little of my story to hopefully explain why it would mean the world to me!

I am not one to look upon this experience as a time to quit and live in misery. I look at this experience as a way to grow and expand myself. Living day to day with pain is not fun. It is not something I wish anyone to experience. Yet I STILL work hard to be productive and help my family! I refuse to quit, I refuse to give up. I will keep working however I can, and I will find my success!

Limitations hit you in life when you least expect the. I had no idea a simple fall would cause me daily pain that has lasted almost a year already. I had no idea it would change my life. Limitations will strike you at the most inopportune moments. They will hit you hard and they will hurt. They will bring you to your knees and make you question everything.

But remember – YOU HAVE TO GET BACK UP. Don’t lay down, don’t quit, don’t stop. GET BACK UP. You can fight. You can push forward.  You can find balance again. It hurts and it’s hard. It takes more work than words can express. But you have to get back up. You are stronger than you know. You can find your way again. Hang onto that hope even in the darkest hours. You are so amazing and I am so proud of you even when you fall back down again!

I want you all to know I appreciate each one of you, though I’ve never met you in person. And I want you to know you are loved and you are amazing! Thank you for being apart of this blog and thank you to those who choose to share my Etsy Shoppe info!

Remember, you can survive all that life throws at you. You are stronger than you ever imagined.

Dragon Fire Rose Creations – A place where beauty and art live!

Savor The Quiet Moments

It’s early and I’m the only one awake. I like times like these, mornings like these, because I get to enjoy the quiet. Life is so busy, so active. We are always doing something, going somewhere, living our lives. It feels like we don’t get many moments of just quiet. Moments to unwind, moments to relax.

Mornings are the time I usually get by myself. I seem to have an internal alarm clock that has me up by 7:45am even on the weekends. If I’ve gotten enough sleep the night before, I’ll go ahead and get up early. If not, I can usually fall back asleep.

Today was one of those early mornings. My house is quiet, everyone else is asleep. The weather here has been unpredictable. Yesterday it rained all day. I woke up this morning to a soft fall of rain and snow on all the cars. It snowed up in the mountains a lot. We are having what looks to be a mid Spring winter!

I’ve put the coffee on and as I wait for it, I work around the house with only the sound of the rain falling softly in the background. It’s really wonderful. The quiet is a good time to reflect and feel centered after a long week. It’s a good time to not have to talk or interact with anyone. It’s peaceful and calming for me.

When we don’t set aside down time for ourselves it can affect us. We need time to recharge, time to de-stress, time to unwind. Even the most go go go people need this, even if it’s just a small amount of time. If I don’t get these moments I am a lot more snappy and less patient. I’ve reached my limit of stimulus and doing things. I just need a breather.

I recommend finding some YOU time. Take a nice hot bath. Chill out and listen to the bubbles of your bubble bath pop. Take an evening with a glass of wine in front of the fireplace and just listen to the sounds of the fire. Sit outside and watch the stars. Do yoga outside while the sun rises over you. Or get up early in the morning like I do and enjoy the quiet of the house and the morning sounds outside.

Find what works for YOU. What will feed your soul, unwind you, and bring you calmness. Each person is different and what works for one may not work for another. I think you are very important and so is your well-being. Make you sure you are remembering to take some time for you so you can be at your best and feel at your best. It’s okay to do things just for you! We cannot give and be there for others if we are running on empty all the time.

Sometimes you just need to stop and breathe. Relax. Find your peace of mind. ❤